How it works
A step-by-step walkthrough of what you and your wife will actually do. You can send her this link so she can read it before deciding to start.
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She arrives because you invited her
In the app you tap Invite wife and enter her number. A WhatsApp message arrives from your own paired number — not from a stranger — with one short line about Famaly and a link. That's the only way in: a closed community, you control the door.
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She creates her own account
Phone + password, just like you. Argon2id hashed. The link carries an invite token so the moment she signs up, her account is automatically linked to your Family — no separate join step, no codes to type. Your child's name now shows in her header too. The child is always present.
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She picks her role
She taps I'm a mother. From this moment her screens use wife / husband when the section is about the two of you as a couple, and mother / father when it's about being parents. You are her husband AND a father. She is your wife AND a mother. The Mirror speaks the same way.
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She writes — and it stays with her
Her journal has three tabs: Me · Husband · From him. Under Me she sees six small sections about herself. Under Husband she writes about you — what she appreciates, what she would want to ask for, what hurt, an apology she's been carrying. Every entry is a DRAFT, encrypted with a key derived from her password. The server cannot read it. You cannot read it. The Mirror cannot read it. Only she can. This is the cornerstone — the inner space is fully hers.
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The Mirror only helps when she asks
While writing a draft she can tap Soften. The Mirror reads only that one paragraph she sent it, suggests a gentler phrasing — never modifies, never saves. She can take the suggestion, ignore it, or edit it. The draft stays a draft.
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The ritual: draft → share
The heart of the product. When she's ready, she taps Share. A small confirmation appears — a deliberate beat, not a one-tap reflex. The entry is decrypted, re-stored as a SHARED row, and a notification goes to you (web push + WhatsApp if you have it enabled). She just placed a piece of her inner world in your hands. That's the whole product.
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She receives what you share
Her From him tab is where your shared entries arrive. Above each one, two small Mirror affordances: Help me hear this (an empathy translation — what you wrote, rephrased in a softer register so she can hear the need beneath it) and four small acknowledgement chips: Seen · Working on it · Want to talk · Accepted. No comment thread. The real conversation happens in real life.
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The conversation — and how it connects to your drafts
When you write to her in Conversation, the Mirror suggests a gentler version drawing on YOUR context: your drafts, your imported past chats with ChatGPT/Claude, your previously shared entries. It knows what you've been carrying. When she reads your message and taps Help me hear this, the Mirror offers a translation from HER side, using HER context. Each Mirror only sees its own person. Your drafts never cross the boundary. It's not one moderator between you — it's two attentive listeners, one beside each of you, each knowing their own person from the inside.
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The bigger rhythms
Weekly reflection (Sundays): the Mirror reads what both of you shared in the last 7 days, surfaces repeating themes — "you both wrote about evenings this week" — and proposes one conversation to have together. Off by default, requires both of you to enable. Stuck patterns: when something is marked Want to talk and no real-life acknowledgement happens for several days, the Mirror gently surfaces it. Prep: before a hard conversation she can tap Prepare and the Mirror gives her three things to keep in mind, one thing to listen for, and one opening sentence.
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What the Mirror never does
It never speaks as you. It never reads anyone else's drafts. It never names who is right. It never sends messages. It never diagnoses. If something sounds like crisis (self-harm, abuse, severe depression), the Mirror gently surfaces that professional help may be the right next step. The Mirror is a reflection, not a verdict. The pen is always in the hands of the one writing.
In one line: she keeps the inside fully private, decides when to make it visible, and the Mirror helps both of you receive each other without defensiveness when she does. The real conversation still happens between the two of you, at home, with the child in the next room.